What Are Friends For ?

"And Hashem appeared to Avraham on the plains of Mamre ... "

Rashi points out that Mamre had the unique zechus to host this revelation because he gave Avraham good advice regarding the bris milah. Prompting the inevitable question - why would Avraham Avinu, who had tracked across continents following the word of G-d, need someone else's advice regarding a commandment ? Hashem said to do it - so he will. period.

Many answers have been given to this classic question. An approach that we can all learn from, however, postulates as follows.

Avraham was meant to view the bris as a test. He would have to find some struggle to overcome and perform this mitzva. A struggle that Avraham was well versed in winning was the struggle against popular opinion. He is called "Ivri" ( lit. "the Hebrew" but figuratively "the one from across the river" ) Avraham stood against an entire polytheistic culture and proclaimed the belief in one G-d - even to the pain of death !

It was this struggle that Avraham thought he had to overcome - to perform what would be taken as self mutilation is certainly different - and to do it for the sake of Hashem's mitzva would be a making a real stand against the pagan world. But only if they knew about it. So Avraham contacted his old war buddies ( see war on the four kings ) and told him what he would do.

Mamre is the only one that saw that Avraham's approach was wrong. For this mitzva - a bris - a covenant - a personal sealing of an almost intimate relationship - no public stand was needed - and that's why Mamre suggested he should go through with it.

Hashem must have agreed with Mamre's reasoning - that's why he revealed Himself to Avraham in Mamre's plains.

And what can we learn from this ? There is a time for making a public stand and there is a time for quiet personal conviction. Sometimes we need an outside perspective to clue us in to which is which. Our job is to seek out and maintain friends that will help us in this lofty mission called life.

Hatzlacha !